I Want to Meet Someone – But I Don’t Want to Date
This is a sentence we hear more often than any other right now. Not in theory but in emails, at activities, in DMs and in conversations. The desire to meet someone is still there. So is curiosity. The longing for closeness hasn’t disappeared. What has disappeared is the desire to date. And that’s not a contradiction. It’s a reaction.
People aren’t tired of meeting — they’re tired of the format
At MinglMe, we meet singles every week. And what’s striking is how rarely anyone says, “I don’t want to meet someone.” What people do say is that they’re tired of what dating looks like today. The swiping. The small talk that never goes anywhere. The feeling of having to perform before you even know if you want to meet. For many, dating has become something you have to push through, rather than something you look forward to. But it’s not the meeting that’s the problem. It’s how we meet.
When Dating Becomes a Project
Many of the people we meet describe dating as a second job.
Constantly having to present yourself, choose photos, craft the “right” version of who you are, and keep conversations alive often with people you’ll never actually meet. Eventually, a kind of mental fatigue sets in. Decision fatigue. And a feeling that it might simply be easier to step away altogether. And this has nothing to do with being picky. It’s about genuinely becoming tired.
At the same time, more people want to meet - but in a new way
What’s interesting is that the desire to meet someone hasn’t decreased.
Quite the opposite. What we’re seeing is that many singles are looking for something different from the classic date. More context. Less pressure. More natural ways of meeting. Not “should we go on a date?” But instead: “should we do something together?”
When the meeting happens, something else happens
When people meet through activities they enjoy, like dance, food, games, culture, the dynamic changes, and you notice it immediately. Conversations flow more naturally. The nervousness fades. Personality gets room to show up without having to be explained or sold. You’re not the sole focus. Instead, you’re sharing an experience with others. That creates a sense of safety, often leads to better connections and it’s in those contexts that chemistry has the space to reveal itself for real.
Why We Created MinglMe
MinglMe was born out of exactly this feeling. We saw how many singles were done with swiping but not done with real-life connections. That’s why we built a singles community where you meet IRL first, through activities. Always in a group. Always with other singles in the same life stage. Chat comes afterwards but only if you want. Maybe it’s not the fastest way to meet someone. But it’s more real than any other way.
How to Become a Member of MinglMe
You create an account and can try MinglMe free for 14 days.
When you book an activity, the trial period ends automatically because that’s when you start using the membership for real. After that, the membership costs 149 SEK per month, with no binding period. With us, you can see who’s attending, meet IRL, and chat afterwards but only with people you’ve actually met.
